Day 25

What I would find in your bag (this line make no sense to me)
I assume they meant what you would find in my bag


1. Orbit gum
2. Maybelliene Falsies Mascara in Blackest Black
3. Rimmel Special Eyes Eyeliner Pencil in Black Magic
4. My work keys and swipe card
5. My Black berry
6. My pink ear buds
7. wallet
8. Blistex Complete Moisture (heavenly)

Day 24 (sorry for the delay work has been kicking my arse)

A letter to your parents


Dear Mom and Dad, 


      So twenty-nine years after giving birth to your little dark chocolate drop I hope you're as proud as you were that day. I'm fully aware that I was a handful or even two handfuls, but I'm so glad that things worked out exactly the way they did. 


Dad


I am so glad that I had the time I did with you. Those six years were the best of my life.  Our family was far from conventional, but a family is what we were nonetheless. I remember when you would dress up like Santa Clause and embarrass the daylights out of me, by giving dollars to all the neighborhood kids. I would cringe. But the kids loved you. So many of them were missing a father in their life. I was lucky and didn't even know it. Now I see what greatness I had. Even in the short six years we were together before God took you away, you showed me how I should be treated, and what kind of man to look for. You will always be the number one man in my life. I love you with all my heart.




Mom


We are so much alike, but so different. We annoy each other to no end, but no one on this earth has my back like you. You give unrequested advice. You push your opinions on me. And you're almost always digging off in my business. It boils my blood and I thank you for it everyday. After dad died things got rough. Really rough. But we made it together through it. And we can make it through anything. I remember the year after dad died you left for work one morning headed to work. It was five and you headed out into the dark cold winter to walk across town to work. As soon as you locked the door behind me I came to a scary epiphany. You were all I had left. I put on my winter gloves, scarf, hat, grabbed the meat cleaver and my coat. I followed behind you for five blocks. Keeping a blocks distance. It was solely my job now to protect my mother. And I was going to do it. Suddenly you turned around. In the midst of the snow, dark, and distance you knew it was me. "Valecia I'll be fine now go home and don't be late for the bus", you yelled. Maybe it was just your motherly intuition or just how well we we're in sync with each other. So I turned and ran back home. Small events like that have taken place my entire life. We will always be each others' number one cheerleaders'. Remember when we used to lcok each other out of the house for fun? Or the hiding game? LOL. Thanks for being my best friend. I am forever indebted. You are truly the greatest. 

Day 23

Something you crave for a lot




This one was pretty hard so I had to ask my booskie to name something I craved. Initially I wasn't going to use his answer because I thought of all the negative connotations that come along with it, but then I realized. It's the truth. And a part of who I am. Soooo......


I crave attention. 


Not look at me my clothes are too tight, my cleavage is too much type attention. I was my father's only daughter (that we know of lol) and I was always his princess. I was my mom's only child so....of course I was her princess. I treat myself like.....you guessed it..a princess. So Ms. Princess Valecia expects that same treatment from the man I love. I'm not a whiner. I'm not all high and mighty with my behaviorisms. But I will pout a bit if I don't get the proper amount of hugs, kisses, and cuddle time that I feel I need daily. I don't consider it to be a bad thing. And I won't stop it. It's far better than me craving cheeseburgers or crack. And far less expensive or self-destructive. Yes *stands up* my name is Valecia and I crave attention. Admitting it is the first step. But then again I never want to change. Everyone wants to know they are loved. I'm no different. I just want my assurance...daily. 

Throwback Thursday

I am a music freak. Most importantly and R & B freak. I can attach a song to almost every important part of my life. Exes. College. Jobs. Friends. It all is connected to a song. So I thought what better way to go down memory lane than start a new feature simply entitled, "Throwback Thursday". Now this isn't the 106th and Park tacky ass Throwback Thursday. This just a time to reflect on some of the best music and times of my life with my followers. Well the first TT goes to one of my faves RL (from the 90's R & B group NEXT). I recently just started following his very sexy arse on twitter and it reminded me how great his music was. That lead me to pick this video. 


June 1, 2002 I moved into my very first apartment. I lived in a third floor studio in old historic set of gorgeous apartments. I felt so....confident. Between my car, new apartment, pending junior year of college, and full-time job I felt unstoppable against the world. I still had a lot to learn, but at THAT moment I was on top of the world.  Almost every night that summer I would step out on my fire escape merlot in hand and listen to Midnight Love on BET (if you're old enough you know, if not don't bother). One warm summer night there was a thunderstorm, but I sat out there anyway....I turned around to see this beautiful video and song. 


By the time the video was over my face was mixed with raindrops and teardrops and since I have been in love with him and this song.....Throwback Thursday. RL. Good Man. *sigh* Real Music.

Day 22

What makes you different from everyone else


Hmmmm what an interesting post topic. This seems so easy. Yet the most difficult one yet. What makes me different??? The answer is hard to communicate. The same things that make me different are also the same things that make me the same. 


I'm a woman that has aimed for the stars and in my humble opinion landed right on the grass. At the age of nineteen I was a journalism major with dreams of being "bigger than Oprah". Fast forward ten years later and I'm a waitress that is literally bigger than oprah. And as earth shattering as that may have been to my ego it hasn't stopped me. I don't do what I want to do. I do what needs to be done. 


I'm nice. I'm a bitch. I'm very serious. I'm a goofball. I'm a hardworker. I'm lazy. I'm a lover. And a fighter. I live a working woman's life, but I have an aristocrats mind. The first person you ask for honest and good advice, but the last person to take my own. I am a plethora of things all at once. An anomaly if you will. 


What makes me different from everyone else?? The fact that I'm the same as each and every person I meet. No matter how different you all may be. 

Day 21

A picture of something/someone that makes you happy

My little cousin Kosheda .I am so proud of her. She is currently studying elementary education in Alabama and she is is the sunshine of my life. Honestly I am blessed to have a little cousin like her and hate the idea of being so far away from my favorite person on earth. I love the fact that somewhere down the line in her past twenty years some of my funny cynical, sarcastic ways have grown on her. However she is still a sweetheart. Kind and goodhearted as the day she was born. Now if some of that could rub off on me. 

The Countdown to 30.......

So I have discussed it many times before. Just last month I celebrated my 29th birthday. The great years of careless twenties are almost behind me. As my thirties loom around the corner in just a mere:

• 332 days
• 10 months, 29 days
• 47 weeks (rounded down)
• 7968 hours
• 478,080 minutes
• 28,684,800 seconds

Yes I went into THAT much detail to discuss my fear of the looming three oh. I've come to the conclusion lately that with such an exciting and scary milestone coming I need to re-evaluate my princess-like ways. When thirty comes knocking I don't want to look anything like it. So it's time adjust my health. Time for healthy hair, skin, body, positive vibes, and just an all-around better view of things....So welcome to my new feature "The Countdown". As I strive to use this section to discuss my fears, emotions, and changes and I head toward a new stage of life. Because contrary to what Jay-Z said thirty is NOT the new twenty. Thirty is the same old damn thirty.

Day 20

Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future




Our lives together have NOT been easy. Actually loving him has been one of the most difficult pleasures I have ever had in my life, but the ride has been sooooo exciting, so nervewrecking, so painful, and soooooooo worth it. Some days I wonder if there is anything about us that is even slightly compatible. Then there are days when I wonder if anyone else in the world will get me like he does. He puts the brightest smile on my face and I only pray it lasts. 

July 2008

We are so different and such major opposites that we frustrate each other to no end, but when we come together we are a force that nothing in this world can penetrate.

His creativity and easy going ways.

My black and white business view 

His psychotic cleanliness

My uncontrollable messiness

He plays hard

I work hard

But.....

when it all comes together we have something special 

even when the relationship seems at it's very last thread one thing still remains

our....

love.

August 2010

Day 19

Nicknames you have; why do you have them

My name is Valecia. I generally like to go by that. At work I'm V. I became V simply because the generally manager (five years ago) hired me and couldn't say my name to save his life. So I became V. It stuck and I kinda like it. I'm occasionally called Baby, sweetpea, or whatever cute names we throw at each other at work, but all in all I'm Valecia. Vernedia and Jessie's baby daughter. 

Day 18

Plans/dreams/goals you have


Honestly the plans I had for my life at 19 are far different from those I have now at 29. Now rather than all the grandeur my goals are rooted in a sense of normalcy.

• Marry the love of my life. I don't need the wedding march, a cathedral of people, or that symbolic (unnecessary) white dress. Just me and the man I love. 
• A middle class income. Being a part of the working class blows large chunks of hail ice!!!! I work six days a week just to sleep soundly knowing all my bills are paid.
• Just One baby. I am on a constant day to day battle with my PCOS (which I will discuss in a later blog). A battle that if I don't win will inevitably leave me childless. That's a scary thought. I want a family. Bitch or no bitch I'd be an excellent mother. 
• Find happiness. Not on the street. In finances. Or even in a man. But right in the mirror. Total. Complete. Never ending happiness. Found right within my own self. 

I mean really......

I know I'm kinda late on this, but hell this is my blog and please believe in this part of the galaxy no matter how late my opinion counts. Okay maybe I'm not fashion forward enough. Or maybe it's that Lady Gaga annoys the effin daylights out of me. Ugh. Like seriously just irritating. She's the girl in high school I would have attempted to trip going up the stairs simply because. Or I would have thrown gum in one of her many outrageous wigs. SMH. But uhhh a meat dress with matching shoes!!! Boo what the eff are you on?! I can't imagine that laying against my skin all cold and raw and shhhhhh.....YUCK!!!! Yeah you took one for the team on that one (Even though I don't have a clue what team that would be), but honestly I thought long and hard about vegan-ism after looking at this shhhh so so so so unappealing!

Day 17

 Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why

No one.

 There is not a soul I would like to trade places with. Just think...who would then take over my life?? God gave me this life because no one past, present, or future would be able to live it better than me. No one could bring the normalcy, grandeur, excitement, and mundaneness all at the same time to this life like I do. God knew exactly what he was doing and I need not get in the way. LOL 

Day 16

Another picture of yourself

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.  ~Confucius

Day 15

Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play

1. Sean Kingston-Fire Burning
2. Ne-Yo-Stop This World
3. Maxwell-Help Somebody
4. Sheryl Crow-The First Cut Is the Deepest
5. Tank-One Man
6. Raheem DeVaughn- Mo' Better
7. Marvin Gaye-Hitch hike
8. Trey Songz- Yo' Side Of the Bed
9. Isley Brothers- I Got Work To Do
10. Iyaz- Replay

Day 14

A picture of you and your family

One of my favorite family pics...the Class of nines...

Me (class of 99'), My little cousin Kosheda (Class of 2009), and my mom (Class of 1969)

I love how I'm the tallest girl in the family and I'm only 5'4" LOL

Beauty Survey

SKINCARE -

How many times do you wash your face daily?
I am for twice, sometimes I even do three I'm a greasy little girl LOL

What skin type do you have? (dry,oily,combo)
Since oil slick wasn't a choice I'll just say oily. :)

What is your current facial wash?
The clinique IV Liquid Facial Soap (booo no-go)! Going back to the Clinique Acne Solutions foaming wash that cleared up hella shine!

Do you exfoliate?
Honestly not often...

What brand do you use?
St. Ives Apricot Scrub

 

What moisturizer do you use?

Clinique Dramatically Different Moisturizing Gel

Do you have freckles?

Nope.

Do you use eye cream?
Nope, but I am 29 I probably should be

Do you or did you have acne prone skin?
No even back in the days of the care free curl (yes I had one) I had luck with the skin! Well except the shine issue.

Did you ever have to use Pro-activ?
I'm blessed to say no.

MAKE-UP
What foundation do you use?
i rarely use foundation when I do it's Studio fix Powder NW50 or Mineralize Skinfinish Natural in Deep Dark

How about concealer?
No

Do you know your undertone color?
Mmm...I'm darker skinned, so a little red...maybe more yellow actually

What do you think of fake eyelashes?
Cute I just can't apply them

Did you know that you are supposed to change your mascara every 3 months?
Yes. And I kinda do LOL By the third month I've moved on to a new brand or ran out anyway LOL

What brand of mascara do you use?
Maybelliene Falsies= <3 True Love!!!

Sephora or MAC?
Sephora they have tons of stuff you don't have to stick to a brand!

Do you have a MAC Pro-card?
Nope

What makeup tools do you use in make up application?
Brushes, q-tips, and the occasional finger

Do you use make-up base/primer for the eyes?
I have a few colors that I will use a base for, but not always..as far as primers UD Primer Potion no ifs, ands, or buts!

For the face?
Don't laugh Monistat Anti-Chafing Gel works wonders as a foundation Primer I swear

What is your favorite eyeshadow (color or shade)?
neutrals and purples

Do you use pencil or liquid eyeliner? 

Liquid eyeliner on top, pencil on bottom. 

How often do you poke your eyes with an eyeliner pencil?
I haven't in a really long time.

What do you think of pigment eyeshadows? 

I like them they last for like.....EVER!!!!

Do you use mineral makeup?
Nope, not really. I have a few mineral eyeshadows and I seldom turn to them.

What is your favorite lipstick?
MAC Icon

How about lipgloss? Hands down MAC Dazzleglass in Blue Comet (LE)

What is your favorite blush to use? 

MAC X-rocks (LE)

Do you buy your makeup on ebay?
Never, not yet at least.

Do you like drugstore makeup?
I do!

Do you go to CCO's? (cosmetic company outlets) Yes LOVE Them!

Did you ever consider taking make-up classes? 

Yepp, but don't know if I will

Are you clumsy in putting on makeup?
No, but I do have a tendency to make messes with many things I do. I'm working on preventing that.

Name a makeup crime that you hate? black lined lips...ewwwww stop that shhh immegiately (yes I said immegiately)

Do you like colorful shades of makeup (lipstick,eyeshadow) or neutral ones? I'm a combo girl I like neutral shadows w/bright liner or a nude lip with a glittery gloss

Which celebrity always has great make up?
 Kim Kardashian, Toya Carter (from Tiny and Toya) LOL

If you could leave the house using just ONE make up item, what would you use?

Eyeliner -> completely changes how you look while barely doing anything.

Could you ever leave the house without any makeup on?
Yeah. Natural beauty is wonderful as well.

Do you think you look good even without any makeup on?
Yeah. Makeup is to enhance and occasionally correct, not to change.

In your opinion, what is the BEST makeup line?
I haven't quite decided yet.

What do you think of Makeup??
It's amazing and so much fun. I adore it!

Day 13

A letter to someone who has hurt you recently

Dear _________, 


     I will never say I am easy to deal with. I am far from without fault. I can admit that. But I love. I love you. Real. Hard. And with everything this woman has inside. So acknowledge that. Respect that. And reciprocate. I am an adult. I am not a young girl who just began to understand what life and love is about. I don't want all of your time. But the time I get should matter. I look forward to seeing your face after a long work day. I want to laugh, joke, and unwind with you. I don't want chaos, silence, or arguments when I come home. I simply want.....you. Hugs, kisses and all. Like it used to be. Personally I don't think that's too much to ask for. And it hurts that I'm still asking.I will never say I am easy to deal with. I am far from without fault. I can admit that. But I love. I love you. Real. Hard. And with everything this woman has inside. So acknowledge that. Respect that. And reciprocate.

Day 12

How you found out about Blogger and why you made one

I originally come to blogger looking to read weight loss blogs for inspiration. Suddenly I decided to track my own journey with pounds so I started my own blog. The royal transformation it was all about my bouts with workouts, weight loss, food and the like. Then one day I realized that my weight loss goals were just a small maybe even tiny portion of what I wanted to talk about. I had a whole lotta  questionable, dare I say adult things to gab about that had nothing to do with weight watchers and salads. And behold Chocolate Girl Wonder was born....lol. BTW The royal transformation will be back very, very, very soon! 

Day 11

Another picture of you and your friends

Time for some honesty:

I am my own best friend

whenever I call I'm there and we will never ever part

Get my point????

Day 10

Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad..........

My musical taste is pretty eclectic. I have at least twenty songs for every emotion, but currently I feel a bit sad and my soundtrack of choice is..........

       Maybe not the best thing to listen to when you're sad, but when I'm feeling emotional I want to hear something that caters to that emotion. And that's where I am today. And for me...today..tonight...at this moment.....it works.......

Day 9

Something you’re proud of in the past few days

I have been really good with my money. Me and the booski got sick and I spent $24.00 bucks on OTC medicine, but outside of that I've been holding my wallet, purse, and check card quite close to my chest. My life has revolved around moving and work. I haven't made a lot of time for extra-cirricular activities. I notice when I do is generally when I spend an ass-load of cash. So I guess..Yayyyyyy to having no social skills and no life. Whatever gets me out of my crappy neighborhood where I order pizzas on for the poor delivery guy to get robbed. SMH Oh that was so not a joke or over-exaggeration. Moving on to a better, more peaceful place to call home, by any means necessary. No cash spending here. Even though *sigh* I can think of thousands of things to do with this cash besides save it. Grrrrrr......

My curvy girls stand up

Just a reminder that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes

Tara Lynn    

and.... 

Ashley Graham

Day 8

Short term goals for this month and why

1. Save more money. 10% of everyday's tips go straight in the savings account. No unnecessary purchases. It's all now about the new apartment and (fingers crossed) the new car.


2. Eating better. My eating habits have become CRAP. I have went from your favorite Chocolate fat girl to "that fat ass girl" uhn uhn that shyt is a no - go! I must get myself together immegiately!!! (yep you read that right) IMMEGIATELY


3. Blog more often. That's why I decided to do the thirty days of me. It forces me to create a blogging schedule (daily) and to be consistent. Now if the world would pay attention to what I had to say.........


4. Have more sex. I aim for daily, but life gets in the way...a lot. Four to five times a week isn't asking too much..or is it? Reason being?? Umm who doesn't like sex??


5. Read a book. I haven't done that in a long time. It angers me to admit that. 


6. Finally use my crock pot. My mom bought it for me for Christmas last year. It hasn't even left the box. 

Day 7

A picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you

My grandmother Ms. Hattie L. Barbee. She exemplified what it meant to be a lady. I am still trying, but I know she would be proud. She always wanted the best for me. And in her later years she became not only a grandmother, but a true friend and confidante. I miss her like crazy and she lives in my heart and the person I am daily. I only hope in time I can be more like her. 

Day 6

Favorite super hero and why

Wonder Woman of course!

How could you not love her??

I only wish I had a lasso of truth and those indestructible bracelets. Let's not even get into the invisible airplane. I think I was wonder woman for three years for Halloween as a child. Might even do it again.  

Day 5 sorry guys I've been sick :(

A picture of somewhere you’ve been to

New Orleans Baby!! Ain't nothing like it!

Day 4

A habit that you wish you didn’t have

I am a procrastinator. I wait till I have one pair of underwear left to do laundry. I drop my rent check off on the second. If that early. I pay bills the day AFTER they are due. I wait till the last possible moment to cook dinner, complain that I'm too tired to cook and go to bed hungry. Yep that's me. Valecia Ann Price. Ann was my birth middle name, but with time, my middle name has become PROCRASTINATOR.

It's good to be flexible.....The Bobbi Boss Indi Remi Ocean Wave review

So I haven't done any real beauty blogging, but I gave my wig happy life a bit of a hiatus and bought myself something special for my birthday

The very popular Bobbi Boss Indi Remi hair in Ocean Wave. 

I researched it for MONTHS before I was willing to hand out my hard earned dollars for this hair. At my local BSS it ran for about $99.99/pack for 14 inches (my desired length). To complete a full sew-in I would need two packs. Sorry call me cheap, but I could not envision paying two hundred bucks for weave. Call me what you  want, but that's just a massive negative. After a little penny pinching and digging I found a great website that sells remy hair for wholesale price. By purchasing it on myremy.com I got the same two packs for $65.00/each add in shipping and handling ($15) and I still paid fifty-five bucks less than what I would have paid for retail price. 

Well.....

Initially I loved it. Seriously loved it like it was my own little child then my perfect hair became not so perfect.

Now this is after I followed all the rules. Put it in plaits at night, used a paddle brush to detangle, brushing from the bottom up,wearing a satin bonnet and all. Maybe it was the heat but that shid frizzed big time. And though I was told to not use products on my hair I pulled out the product junkie arsenal. Cause please believe me I was gonna save this hair like it was my child drowning.


The arsenal included: 
Herbal Essences Tousle me Softly Spray Gel
Herbel Essences Totally Twisted Curl Scrunching Gel
Garnier Fructis Sleek and Shine Leave-In Conditioning Cream
and.....
Jumbo Size Flexi-Rods

and for comedies sake



The two med. size yellow magnetic rollers were for my own natural leave out. 
So after an "interesting" nights sleep in the morning I got this...



Better but yet frizzies and flyaways still exist!!! Grrrrr!


I was going to crop the pic better, but then I realized I matched my bathroom really well that day ;p
So all that to say I am very 50/50 about this hair. I will work with it to the end because of the price but I just can't say I'm willing to purchase this brand again.  
Any suggestions ladies???

Day 3

A picture of you and your friends.                                      

I am not one to claim a lot of people to be my friends. Most come and go and honestly that is just fine with me. But I have a group of girls that aren't friends----they are sisters. We have all been together since we were at least four. We we raised in the same church, under the same rules, regulations, beliefs, faith, and love. Though we have went our separate ways, and have began to live new lives as wives, and mothers we are always there for each other.Tamika, LaShonda, Roneasha, and Kiyoa. My family, my friends, and my sisters.