Day 30

Your favorite song

I have many many many favorite songs, but when I tried to think it through this came to mind first.....

Fragile by Miss Chrisette Michele feat. Wale

I think it safely describes my take on love, dating, and relationships.

Day 29

In this past month, what have you learned

• communication is the key. When I stopped yelling and getting belligerent things started going my way a bit more. 
• I have one of the greatest traits in life. I bounce back easy. I don't let anything get me down. For long.
• I have a tendency to want to argue a person down when they are wrong. This month I did something that's normally not me and it worked. I ignored the @#$% the ishhh out this chick and that got my point across much quicker. LOL. That broad wanted to pull a serious Justin Timberlake (aka cry me a river) and that's exactly how it should be. 
• That loving Valecia is a full-time job. I can't expect anyone to take it on, but me. Punching in at times is rough, but the check is so fulfilling.

Day 28

A picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?

October 2009

I have seen a year of heartbreak, tears, falling down, picking myself up and redemption. The woman I was twelve months ago is quite actually the SAME woman I am today. Just with a little bit more of a story to tell. My experiences are like that of any other young woman. I have learned in this year that I have the hardest shell at times, but I am a very emotional being. I will give my all, but when I give up. I give up. 

As far as the slightly trivial. In this past year I have been Suze Orman "god-like" with my finances. Not a day of struggle, need or want. Even when I was trudging in the cold and snow last winter in public transportation my bank account was bigger than it had been in like....EVER!

I will say the girl in the above picture is a bit healthier than the one pictured below. November of last year is when my doctor diagnosed me with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) I must admit since then I haven't done much to make my life in connection to this "issue" easier. I didn't ask about possible hormonal medications or start a weight loss regimen to subside some of my symptoms. I just continued to live my life. Ignoring it. Needless to say that hasn't made the situation better. I have actually gotten heavier. I'm working on those issues. I's all about self-control and drive. 

Other than that. The girl above and below are truly blessed. Every good or bad thing that has taken place in my life these past twelve months has only made me that much more stronger, better, smarter, and beautiful for the next 12 months. So to respond in my normally twisted way. How have I changed in the past year???
By leaps and bounds. But yet very very little. 

October 2010

Day 27

Day 27- Why are you doing this 30 day challenge


 I love to blog. Honestly I do. But sometimes I run out of ideas or I get in front of the computer and forget the kick arse idea that I came up with just hours ago at work. Then my blogging goes from daily, to weekly, to monthly and that is not good. I did the 30 day challenge to keep myself on a schedule (though I didn't stick to it the way I would have liked) . It has allowed me to be more consistent with my blogging. And be consistent with a purpose. And I have taken time to get all my thoughts and blog ideas ready for after these thirty days are over. It has really helped. I suggest all bloggers do it. 

Day 26

What you think about your friends


 I love my friends I wish we were closer, but then again the space between us makes it that more enjoyable when we do spend time together or talk together. We have all grown into different women with very different points of view. But that's what makes us so interesting. 

Day 25

What I would find in your bag (this line make no sense to me)
I assume they meant what you would find in my bag


1. Orbit gum
2. Maybelliene Falsies Mascara in Blackest Black
3. Rimmel Special Eyes Eyeliner Pencil in Black Magic
4. My work keys and swipe card
5. My Black berry
6. My pink ear buds
7. wallet
8. Blistex Complete Moisture (heavenly)

Day 24 (sorry for the delay work has been kicking my arse)

A letter to your parents


Dear Mom and Dad, 


      So twenty-nine years after giving birth to your little dark chocolate drop I hope you're as proud as you were that day. I'm fully aware that I was a handful or even two handfuls, but I'm so glad that things worked out exactly the way they did. 


Dad


I am so glad that I had the time I did with you. Those six years were the best of my life.  Our family was far from conventional, but a family is what we were nonetheless. I remember when you would dress up like Santa Clause and embarrass the daylights out of me, by giving dollars to all the neighborhood kids. I would cringe. But the kids loved you. So many of them were missing a father in their life. I was lucky and didn't even know it. Now I see what greatness I had. Even in the short six years we were together before God took you away, you showed me how I should be treated, and what kind of man to look for. You will always be the number one man in my life. I love you with all my heart.




Mom


We are so much alike, but so different. We annoy each other to no end, but no one on this earth has my back like you. You give unrequested advice. You push your opinions on me. And you're almost always digging off in my business. It boils my blood and I thank you for it everyday. After dad died things got rough. Really rough. But we made it together through it. And we can make it through anything. I remember the year after dad died you left for work one morning headed to work. It was five and you headed out into the dark cold winter to walk across town to work. As soon as you locked the door behind me I came to a scary epiphany. You were all I had left. I put on my winter gloves, scarf, hat, grabbed the meat cleaver and my coat. I followed behind you for five blocks. Keeping a blocks distance. It was solely my job now to protect my mother. And I was going to do it. Suddenly you turned around. In the midst of the snow, dark, and distance you knew it was me. "Valecia I'll be fine now go home and don't be late for the bus", you yelled. Maybe it was just your motherly intuition or just how well we we're in sync with each other. So I turned and ran back home. Small events like that have taken place my entire life. We will always be each others' number one cheerleaders'. Remember when we used to lcok each other out of the house for fun? Or the hiding game? LOL. Thanks for being my best friend. I am forever indebted. You are truly the greatest. 

Day 23

Something you crave for a lot




This one was pretty hard so I had to ask my booskie to name something I craved. Initially I wasn't going to use his answer because I thought of all the negative connotations that come along with it, but then I realized. It's the truth. And a part of who I am. Soooo......


I crave attention. 


Not look at me my clothes are too tight, my cleavage is too much type attention. I was my father's only daughter (that we know of lol) and I was always his princess. I was my mom's only child so....of course I was her princess. I treat myself like.....you guessed it..a princess. So Ms. Princess Valecia expects that same treatment from the man I love. I'm not a whiner. I'm not all high and mighty with my behaviorisms. But I will pout a bit if I don't get the proper amount of hugs, kisses, and cuddle time that I feel I need daily. I don't consider it to be a bad thing. And I won't stop it. It's far better than me craving cheeseburgers or crack. And far less expensive or self-destructive. Yes *stands up* my name is Valecia and I crave attention. Admitting it is the first step. But then again I never want to change. Everyone wants to know they are loved. I'm no different. I just want my assurance...daily. 

Day 22

What makes you different from everyone else


Hmmmm what an interesting post topic. This seems so easy. Yet the most difficult one yet. What makes me different??? The answer is hard to communicate. The same things that make me different are also the same things that make me the same. 


I'm a woman that has aimed for the stars and in my humble opinion landed right on the grass. At the age of nineteen I was a journalism major with dreams of being "bigger than Oprah". Fast forward ten years later and I'm a waitress that is literally bigger than oprah. And as earth shattering as that may have been to my ego it hasn't stopped me. I don't do what I want to do. I do what needs to be done. 


I'm nice. I'm a bitch. I'm very serious. I'm a goofball. I'm a hardworker. I'm lazy. I'm a lover. And a fighter. I live a working woman's life, but I have an aristocrats mind. The first person you ask for honest and good advice, but the last person to take my own. I am a plethora of things all at once. An anomaly if you will. 


What makes me different from everyone else?? The fact that I'm the same as each and every person I meet. No matter how different you all may be. 

Day 21

A picture of something/someone that makes you happy

My little cousin Kosheda .I am so proud of her. She is currently studying elementary education in Alabama and she is is the sunshine of my life. Honestly I am blessed to have a little cousin like her and hate the idea of being so far away from my favorite person on earth. I love the fact that somewhere down the line in her past twenty years some of my funny cynical, sarcastic ways have grown on her. However she is still a sweetheart. Kind and goodhearted as the day she was born. Now if some of that could rub off on me. 

Day 20

Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future




Our lives together have NOT been easy. Actually loving him has been one of the most difficult pleasures I have ever had in my life, but the ride has been sooooo exciting, so nervewrecking, so painful, and soooooooo worth it. Some days I wonder if there is anything about us that is even slightly compatible. Then there are days when I wonder if anyone else in the world will get me like he does. He puts the brightest smile on my face and I only pray it lasts. 

July 2008

We are so different and such major opposites that we frustrate each other to no end, but when we come together we are a force that nothing in this world can penetrate.

His creativity and easy going ways.

My black and white business view 

His psychotic cleanliness

My uncontrollable messiness

He plays hard

I work hard

But.....

when it all comes together we have something special 

even when the relationship seems at it's very last thread one thing still remains

our....

love.

August 2010

Day 19

Nicknames you have; why do you have them

My name is Valecia. I generally like to go by that. At work I'm V. I became V simply because the generally manager (five years ago) hired me and couldn't say my name to save his life. So I became V. It stuck and I kinda like it. I'm occasionally called Baby, sweetpea, or whatever cute names we throw at each other at work, but all in all I'm Valecia. Vernedia and Jessie's baby daughter. 

Day 18

Plans/dreams/goals you have


Honestly the plans I had for my life at 19 are far different from those I have now at 29. Now rather than all the grandeur my goals are rooted in a sense of normalcy.

• Marry the love of my life. I don't need the wedding march, a cathedral of people, or that symbolic (unnecessary) white dress. Just me and the man I love. 
• A middle class income. Being a part of the working class blows large chunks of hail ice!!!! I work six days a week just to sleep soundly knowing all my bills are paid.
• Just One baby. I am on a constant day to day battle with my PCOS (which I will discuss in a later blog). A battle that if I don't win will inevitably leave me childless. That's a scary thought. I want a family. Bitch or no bitch I'd be an excellent mother. 
• Find happiness. Not on the street. In finances. Or even in a man. But right in the mirror. Total. Complete. Never ending happiness. Found right within my own self. 

Day 17

 Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why

No one.

 There is not a soul I would like to trade places with. Just think...who would then take over my life?? God gave me this life because no one past, present, or future would be able to live it better than me. No one could bring the normalcy, grandeur, excitement, and mundaneness all at the same time to this life like I do. God knew exactly what he was doing and I need not get in the way. LOL 

Day 16

Another picture of yourself

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.  ~Confucius

Day 15

Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play

1. Sean Kingston-Fire Burning
2. Ne-Yo-Stop This World
3. Maxwell-Help Somebody
4. Sheryl Crow-The First Cut Is the Deepest
5. Tank-One Man
6. Raheem DeVaughn- Mo' Better
7. Marvin Gaye-Hitch hike
8. Trey Songz- Yo' Side Of the Bed
9. Isley Brothers- I Got Work To Do
10. Iyaz- Replay

Day 14

A picture of you and your family

One of my favorite family pics...the Class of nines...

Me (class of 99'), My little cousin Kosheda (Class of 2009), and my mom (Class of 1969)

I love how I'm the tallest girl in the family and I'm only 5'4" LOL

Day 13

A letter to someone who has hurt you recently

Dear _________, 


     I will never say I am easy to deal with. I am far from without fault. I can admit that. But I love. I love you. Real. Hard. And with everything this woman has inside. So acknowledge that. Respect that. And reciprocate. I am an adult. I am not a young girl who just began to understand what life and love is about. I don't want all of your time. But the time I get should matter. I look forward to seeing your face after a long work day. I want to laugh, joke, and unwind with you. I don't want chaos, silence, or arguments when I come home. I simply want.....you. Hugs, kisses and all. Like it used to be. Personally I don't think that's too much to ask for. And it hurts that I'm still asking.I will never say I am easy to deal with. I am far from without fault. I can admit that. But I love. I love you. Real. Hard. And with everything this woman has inside. So acknowledge that. Respect that. And reciprocate.

Day 12

How you found out about Blogger and why you made one

I originally come to blogger looking to read weight loss blogs for inspiration. Suddenly I decided to track my own journey with pounds so I started my own blog. The royal transformation it was all about my bouts with workouts, weight loss, food and the like. Then one day I realized that my weight loss goals were just a small maybe even tiny portion of what I wanted to talk about. I had a whole lotta  questionable, dare I say adult things to gab about that had nothing to do with weight watchers and salads. And behold Chocolate Girl Wonder was born....lol. BTW The royal transformation will be back very, very, very soon! 

Day 11

Another picture of you and your friends

Time for some honesty:

I am my own best friend

whenever I call I'm there and we will never ever part

Get my point????